Hookup: defined as a brief intimate encounter between two uncommitted individuals.
The idea of a casual, unattached hookup has an appealing feel to it, and at first glance, it might seem innocuous. But what you may not be able to see is the damage it does to women.
Sex is full of risks apart from emotional risks, be it STIs, unplanned pregnancies, AIDS, the financial cost of contraception, etc. Are you willing to risk it with someone you don’t know too well? Do you know for sure that you can trust them?
No matter how attractive unattached sex seems, there’s more to the strings than meets the surface.
According to an article from American Psychological Association.
It’s an idea described as liberating and uplifting, but the feelings of loneliness and lack of fulfillment that follow casual sex are often overlooked.
We are all aware of the double standard that continues to this day. A guy can sleep with as many girls as he wants, and that would only make him more masculine, something he could brag about to his friends. But when a girl does the same, she’s suddenly seen as a lesser person.
1,468 college-aged students described feeling a range of negative emotions related to a connection. 20.1% said they felt embarrassed, 24.7% experienced emotional difficulties, 20.8% felt a loss of self-respect, and 10% said they had difficulty with a stable partner. No matter how you choose to view it, sleeping with someone is being vulnerable with them, according to an APA study since February 2013.
The college culture is known for its party atmosphere. Movies and TV shows encourage this idea of a student being able to party as much as they want. Although this is a stereotype, it contains some truth. Alcohol also plays an important role in hookup culture. A typical connection might occur after two people have consumed a decent amount of alcohol, which doesn’t leave much room for genuine communication. It fits with the idea that a connection doesn’t involve much, if any, talking.
“Alcohol use has been consistently linked to sex, such that those who drink alcohol at high levels and drink it more often are more likely than those who don’t to engage in sex overall, to log in more frequently and to report having more of them. of connection partners”, according to a study in the journal Frontiers of Psychology.
Rape is a serious problem that is increasingly taken into account with the rise of feminism and the #Me too movement, but what about when it is called miscommunication? If you engage in such an encounter, it is your responsibility to ensure that your partner not only gives verbal consent, but is also engaged in the interaction.
Sexual assault fits the alcohol and violence model with “43% of sexual assault events involve alcohol consumption by the victim; 69 percent involve the abuser’s consumption of alcohol,” as reported by the American Addiction Center.
As a child, our world was filled with princesses, fairy tales and idealistic romances. But as we get older, we face the fact that it’s never that easy, especially in a media world that glorifies “getting fucked,” and countless men and women are hurt by it.